You are in a good relationship and you want to make it even better
You are feeling distant from your partner and want to reconnect
You argue frequently and you want to find a way to resolve conflicts together
Your relationship is in trouble and you want to save it
You want to set a worthy example for your children and their future relationships
Often, couples don't seek counseling until a crisis occurs or distressing patterns seemingly repeat themselves endlessly. Couples counseling, however, is a worthwhile investment anytime in your relationship. It will pay large dividends to you, your partner and your children in the long run by helping you nurture each other and deepen your connection.
How to prepare for Couples Counseling
Try to come in with an open mind and an open heart. Many times, when a couple enters therapy only one member wants to be there. This is normal. One of you often feels the relationship is worse or has reached a point that something has to be done.
If you are at this point, you will get the most out of your time in therapy by being open and honest about how you are feeling and what you are experiencing. I encourage you to share any doubts or concerns about the process and ask questions about how it works. I know how difficult it can be to walk through the door, and I want to make it a comfortable experience where you feel safe enough to express yourself.
I start with the premise that something is right in a relationship and use a strengths-based approach as a starting point. Yes, I help you explore barriers that are keeping you from reaching a fulfilling and happy relationship, but often couples think something is “wrong” with their relationship. The truth, however, is that seeking couples counseling can be an indication that something is right.
When two people love each other but realize that they are having some difficulty, just acknowledging the issue and seeking support and guidance of an experienced therapist is a strength. The good news is that both of you realize a barrier exists to greater intimacy. I consider that realization a major strength and we can use this as a foundation to begin our work together.
One of the reasons that I enjoy working with couples is because couples counseling offers an opportunity for both of you to learn new skills, such as:
Learning how to find the positives and what you are getting and giving in the relationship
Recognizing unconscious patterns and repetitive behavior that damage the relationship
Creating an environment to bring passion back into the relationship
Nurturing positive change and moving away from the “same old, same old”